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| My little sister is 14 and in middle school and just the other day her and her boyfriend, who is also 14 broke up. Long story short he is immature but its just not him who is immature but all 14 year old boys. I know this is like a "uhhh well duh" pretty much any grown man will admit to that as well but I believe that each generation gets more and more imature becuase personal emotions get so distorted and repressed by media and selfish thought.
Heres my Theories:
Happiness is a Physical Feeling?
Humans like to physically feel good and feeling the emotion happy is now being made a strictly physical feeling. When you first meet someone you physically feel excited, the butterflies start fluttering in your stomach and you get all jettery just thinking about them. What is happening though is people are take this physical feeling and associating it with the emotional feeling. After a while the butterflies are gone leaving your true feelings for the other person there to be expressed. This is where the problem sets in, people start to think becuase they physically don't feel the happiness, it must not be there. This is why knowing your true feelings is imporatant and really owning them, society can not tell you what makes you happy. Only you know youre emotions. I know for a fact that a married couple do not get all jittery and excited every time they set eyes on their spouse. Relationships take work and the confusion of physical and emotional feeling and laziness becuase of lack of effort to put fourth to communicate and truly own how you feel.
So whats the solution? Well, theres a couple things....
Let other people what to feel.
Why not? Its easier that way. Yes, reflected appraises and a necessity to human development but at some point maturity has to take place and we have to take control of what and how we feel. People so often give in so easlisy and effortless to what other people will say or what the media promotes.
On that note....
Sex.
The media talks so much about sex its notation and importance is lost in many people's eyes, sex is seen as something that makes you physically feel good and that physical feeling is tied into the emotional feeling of happiness. It can even go down to a smaller example like a hug, a hug is physical and it is usually used to express comfort therefore it gets confused with an emotion. Its not the hug that makes you feel happy, its the person doing it and the meaning it holds. Sex though is so much more intense and creates chemical reactions in the mind and that creates a temporary state of euphoria and physical pleasure. What happens though when its gone? Addiction. People now are getting addicted to physically feeling good and whether or not you have or ever had sex
What makes you happy? So often after the butterflies couples fall in to societies notition of what brings happiness, and sex replaces the butterflies
Ok. Easy answer, have sex.
Notice my explanation of the hug, it portrayed comfort because the person delivering it had some sort of value in your life. If a complete stranger were to come up and give you a huge bear hug, your reaction would be much different. Sex can be held in the same way, but again, so much more intense. People are able to have sex with random partners because that physical feeling is intensified.
But we know each other....
Yes but how long? Is the physically intimacy there to replace the butterflies? If so, you haven't seen the true person you've seen the physically happy feeling person.
to sum it all up:
immaturity= lack of effort to take control of one's feelings
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| Everytime someone has a birthday at Camp Gray they get the oh so fun birthday chant and rough rub on the head.Then they get called on extra for table cheers and to sings and dance and all that jazz, no exception for me. My cabin group made it super special too, they had the idea of a surprise bday party so my co-counselor planed it then kidnaped me and took me there, I really have the best co-couselor, Im glad im getting close to someone. I got so many bday cards, songs and hugs, it was a really neat day. So lately I have been diserning my vocation in life and I ask everyone to please pray for me so I can be guided in the correct path. I feel a strong calling to the single life for many of reasons which makes me also think of the religious life, so I esp ask for prayers for guidness. | | |
| MY cabin consists of ten sixth graders, and everyone came with someone except for one. can we say CLICKY. i have worked my butt off to get them to reach out to others and I have to say that I am slowly but surly I am getting my way I am really proud of them. Last night was great. It rained so we had super cabin time (time to spend and bond with your cabin) inside becaue of the weather so I did an team building activity. We decirated oueces if a puzzel I cut ou then they had to peice it together as a whole, and I made handicaps along the way, like one girl had to wear a blind fold but had to put four of the pieces in and slowly but surley i started taking away talking privlidges starting witht he most dominate. Then we proccessed the whole thing Our devotion was really good as well. We first read from the book His Princess by Sheri Rose GREAT book ( i would LOVE that book wink wink) and talked about it. then the main part was about sterotyping and clicks so I had them line up and I put some type of sterotype on their back for example: cheerleader and nerd. Then I had them react to eachother, how they would treat the person written on their back. Then I slowly came around and place another name tag from people of the church over it for example: Jesus, and the Pope. After the activity we talked about how each one was treated before and after and how that made them feel. One cool thing we pointed out was that our mother Mary was judged as well, they wanted to stone her to death before other knew she was carry Christ and look how wonderful of a person she is. Overall I think this is going to turn out to be a good week, I can see my girls growing a bit more eachday Jenny Lynn McFarling E10213 Shady Lane Road Reedsburg, WI, 53959 I LOVE mail and PACKAGES esp with my bday being SIX days away | | |
| Oh northen hicks, LOVE them I went to a Tractor Pull tonight. Yep, trucks, tractors and sim-i's pulling huge amount of weight in a small amount of time. Entertianing? You bet it is, the whole town turned out, welcome to Baraboo | | |
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